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Sunday, March 04, 2007
What if...
Has anyone wondered before what if Romeo married Juliet? And what if Antar married Abla? Or Jameel Buthyna married Buthyna?

I remember discussing this with my best friend once, but, given my notorious lack of memory, I can’t remember who brought it up. Most probably she did.

So, what if all these legendary lovers got married after such strong, flaming and ‘miserable’ love stories? Do you think they would’ve loved each other till death did them part? Or would they finally see their differences and admit that it wasn’t more than lust or the love for the unreachable and forbidden?

Or maybe they did love each other sincerely but in different times than ours, where I, personally, don’t believe love exists. And if it did, I am pretty sure it won’t last, unless ‘death did them part’ a couple of years after they got married!

I know, I do sound very pessimistic and skeptical, but hey, so far I haven’t seen but ONE love story that managed to hold for years years even after the married couple became grandparents (الله يتم عليهم ويحفظهم يارب). Oh, wait! There’s another love story, they are not grandparents yet, but I think they are still in love after more than 20 years of marriage (هم الله يتم عليهم يارب).

I’m sure I am biased when I say this, but it looks like men are not capable of an everlasting love :P Or maybe their love is different than that of women’s? I believe we, women, think of love as a whole, you either have it/take it/offer it all or NOT. From what I’ve seen so far, men would love their wives, but can also love other women and, why not? Marry them!


وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلا تُقْسِطُوا فِي الْيَتَامَى فَانْكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ مَثْنَى وَثُلاثَ وَرُبَاعَ
النساء 4

Is NOT a proof that it’s OK for men to ‘love and marry’ more than one woman! There’s more to that Aya, ya know!

فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ذَلِكَ أَدْنَى أَلا تَعُولُوا
النساء 4

Hmmm… I think I’m drifting off here. So back to our big question:

What if those legendary lovers got married? Would it hold? And Why?

PS. For all the wanna-be shrinks out there, this post is not based on personal experiences :)


posted by Witty at 6:54 PM | Permalink |


  • At March 04, 2007 7:58 PM, Blogger Delicately Realistic

    What if....hmmm...
    If they got married they would just be like any other regular couple we hear of....the woman get pregnant, has the kids...puts on a little weight...the man goes to work, goes to the diwaniya....acts a little distant every now and then....u know...usual stuff we're all used to :P

    The beauty of these love stories is the misery they caused and how they ended in failure...hmm i dunno...now im the one drifting!

  • At March 05, 2007 12:15 AM, Blogger UmmEl3yal

    Hi hon :) Great question!

    I think they were legends because they did not marry. If they had married they would be like any other couple we see in movies and resturants ... together but each in his/her own world :(

  • At March 05, 2007 12:31 AM, Blogger White Wings

    hay witty
    miss you girl
    i think we need to define love first..
    i think that you are in love when you feel most comfortable and most secure with your partner, when you are able to laugh and talk for hours not thinking about how you look or fearing that your partner is judging you
    so i think it definately goes beyond desire, and we would never know what would be of these lovers...they would definately have trouble, but would their love withstand? ( so many woulds) we will never know :)
    so what do you think love is?
    yalla define :)
    because we have to change this pessimistic, yes, pessimistic view of yours :)

  • At March 05, 2007 1:05 AM, Blogger Witty

    Delicately Realistic
    lol I agree totally about the 'typical' Kuwaiti marriage image.

    And you are right again, the beauty of them is the misery they ended up with!

    Why can't we have people 'living happily ever after'?

    Hi hi hi ->men enhi -------->lain ehnaak hi :) Where have you been hiding, woman? been ages :) pleased to see you around :)

    You, like Delicately Realistic, are right in that they are legends because they are just miserable ol' shesma! :) and their marriage most probably would've been a typical taken-for-granted marriage :/

    It's so good that am not alone in the world who thinks that lol

    White Wings
    Hey hey, Whitie :))
    miss you loads as well :*

    So you're turning the table on me, ehh? :) You want me to define love? I remember UmmEl3yal had a post about the same thing once :)

    I have to admit, I am a pessimist when it comes to love :) Love to me is all that you said PLUS when you know all the faults and flaws of someone and still want to spend your life with him/her :) provided that none of the flaws is cheating or lying. So far, it only sounds like a myth. Hope you're not included in my statistics of 'typical' marriages :)


    OK, we need the guys' opinion! This is highly biased!:P

  • At March 05, 2007 5:03 AM, Blogger eshda3wa

    they would all get divorced.
    i think it was the adventure, love of the game more than anyhting else, once its persued,,, divorce baby

  • At March 05, 2007 8:42 PM, Blogger Entropy

    NO, it won't hold. For the same reason strawberry cheesecake tastes so ordinary when you have it every phreakin day.

    But don't be harsh on men though, a man IS CAPABLE of giving endless love, just make sure to change the woman at the receiving end often enough ;-)

    On a more serious note, that "Romeo & Juliette" kind of love is just a phase that one goes through, its beautiful, spirit lifting, does lots of great things to you - and may I add even bad things- but it can't last forever.... I mean at some point you're bound to get bored of love songs & poems and all that, and you tend to focus on things that are more important in life.

    Marriages that follow a love story tend to go either of these paths:

    1- you fell in love with the wrong guy, now you've experienced first hand what the phrase "love is blind" means, and you will learn how to live with your mistakes. But don't worry thats not as bad as you might think.

    2- you fell in love with the right guy at the right time. Don't get too excited B$#%ch cause you will not be less bored than the girl in path#1

    The ideal situation would be for the girl to let her brain chooses her man for her... so even when the love phase cools down, she won't get bored that easily. The one MAJOR flaw with this strategy is that we can't manually turn on the love switch :-)

    Wow sorry that was a looooong comment!

  • At March 06, 2007 12:37 AM, Blogger Mamloo7a Q8ia

    nice post
    all these stories will end with divorce
    do you remember why they couldnt mary
    because of thier families
    which were refusing the relationship
    so khalet romeo ra7 etnaked 3uleeh 3eshatah
    same with other stories

    what do you think????

  • At March 06, 2007 2:37 AM, Blogger DiLLi O MiLLi

    Ohh… I agree with what u said 100% dear
    صح ألسانك
    And it's NOT a Pessimistic view … it’s the True !!

    What if those legendary lovers got married would it hold ?
    Noo… that’s why they are legends !!

    وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلا تُقْسِطُوا فِي الْيَتَامَى فَانْكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ مَثْنَى وَثُلاثَ وَرُبَاعَ

    يا حبيبتي الريع عندنا يفسرون هذي الآية على مشتهاتهم .. فرايحين على ثنتين وثلاث وأربع .. عسى ما تعجبه وحده راح وتزوجها .. صار جنه زواج متعه !! أستغفرالله !!ء

    فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ذَلِكَ أَدْنَى أَلا تَعُولُوا

    الله لو أقولج شلون في ناس يفسروون هذي الآيه !! تدرين أن في ناس ألحين يعني في عصرنا هذا عندهم الخدم هم ما "ملكت أيمانكم"!!؟؟ أنتي متخيله الوضع !! أمي وحده من اللي شهدوا هذا الشي في أحد المستشفيات لما وحده معاها ولدها اللي لحيته واصله صدره يايبين فلبينيه كانت تعبانه ... طلع الدكتور جان يقولهم انها حامل سأل عن زوجها قالت الأم أنها موو متزوجه ... رد الدكتور : طيب تعرفين أبو الطفل ؟ قالت أي ولدي هذا وتأشر على بو لحيه ...رد الدكتور : يعني زوجتك؟ تدرين شنو كان رده !!؟؟ ..لأ يا دكتور ... ما ملكت أيمانكم !! الدكتور هني فقد أعصابه جان يقوله أنت جم عمرك!؟ رد 18 !! الدكتور : أنت عايش في زمن الجاهليه ...!!! اللي سويته هذا زنى أو أغتصاب وراح تحاسب عليه قانونيا ... وصرخ الدكتور وقال نادولي الشرطه !!! أبذمتك شفتي الوضع المأساوي اللي وصلتله البلد !!!ء

    أحنا ويين والحب والرومانسيه ويين...!!! لوعنتر وعبله متزوجين ... جان عنتر قلب أبيض من البهق بسبب الحاله الفسيه والقثا .. وعبله قلبت سوده من المشاوير من خيمه ليه خيمه تحت الشموس بعد ما كانت معززه ومكرمه عند أبوهااا طلباتها تيها ليه خيمتها بس من أتزوج وجه الفقر عنتر بيروح كل هالعز وهالدلال ... رميوو وجوليت جنهم يدروون بمستقبلهم أذا تزوجوا فخدووها من أصرها وأنتحروا


  • At March 07, 2007 9:04 AM, Blogger Smile

    روميو وجولييت يوم حبوا بعض .. كان عمرهم 17 سنه .. لو ما ماتوا بالقصه .. تعتقد ان لما يصير عمرهم 21 راح يحبون بعض

    ما اعتقد الريال اللي يتزوج على مرته من غير سبب يحب مرته من قلبه .. هذا مزواج .. وحجته

    وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلا تُقْسِطُوا فِي الْيَتَامَى فَانْكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ مَثْنَى وَثُلاثَ وَرُبَاعَ

  • At March 07, 2007 9:19 PM, Blogger 2 u ALL

    ليش هذه العنصريه ..!! ليش اللوم كله على الرجل .. !!من كلامك ...!!؟

    but it looks like men are not capable of everlasting love...!!

    أنا أعتقد أن المشكله في الطرفين أي في "الأنسان"..بشكل عام ..!! بغض النظر عن جنسه ..!! وأنتي تناقضين نفسك بالأشاده بعلاقات حب أستمرت لسنوات طويله ولازالت مستمره ..!! واسئلك من هو الطرف الاخر في هذه العلاقات بجانب المرأه ..!! هل هو "الجني" أو " المخلوق الفضائي" أو هو " مخلوق أخر".. غير الرجل..!!؟

    أتقوا الله في أنفسكم أيها الناس ..!! ولاتفسروا أيات الله على هواكم..!! وعلى ما تشتهيه أنفسكم..!! رجالاً كنتم أم نساء ..!!؟

  • At March 08, 2007 7:26 AM, Blogger Drama Div@

    they wanted to make life together. i believe, they are meant to remain unmarried.... if they ever got married, they'll definitely regret!!

    life sucks.. so what...

    Till death do us part... whatever

  • At March 09, 2007 1:30 AM, Blogger layal

    نفس السؤال طرحته لما شفت فيلم
    massage in a bottel
    سؤال صعب الاجابه عليه
    ابطال هذه القصص اشتهرت بسبب حرمان الحبيبين من اللقاء برباط يجمع بينهم

  • At March 10, 2007 8:45 PM, Blogger Witty

    hehe, I totally agree, but your cousin toto doesn’t! Please tell her :)

    I like the strawberry cheesecake metaphor :)
    And I agree with all that you said. Such puppy love is a nice phase, but it’s not only boredom that is bound to happen, it’s the harsh reality that hits after being married and living together. You are right in that the mind should play a role in it, but the heart is a major player as well. I believe the greatest love of all starts with a friendship then becomes romantic. Then again, if you find that ON/OFF switch to love, please let me know :/

    Oh, and I love long comments ;) don’t worry about it :) take a look at mine lol

    Mamloo7a Q8ia
    Hahahahahaha ham you have a very good point there! Remember, also 3abla’s father didn’t agree of her marriage to 3antar! So, there’s a strong element there lol

    Dilli O Milli

    LOLLLLLLLLLL عاد انتي بدعتي كالعادة
    ومشكورة وايد على المؤازرة ههاهاهاهاهاهاها

    عاد سامعة عن قصة ثانية عن "ما ملكت أيمانكم" ... الأخوة من كثر الإيمان ردوا عصر الجاهلية والعبيد والإماء مشالله.

    بس كله بصوب وتصوريج حق عنتر وعبلة بصوب ثاني هاهاهاهاهاها أببيه.. صاجة ترى ياوخيتج

    تهقين إذا صار وحبيت أنتحر أبرك؟؟

    واحنا اللي مشتاقين كلش ملش

    يا حلو اسمج والصورة اللي حاطتها :).. يدلون على التفاؤل مع ان موضوعنا ما فيه تفاؤل :)

    والله يا قلبي شفت اللي يحب مرته (ويبجي لا زعلت منه) بس يلعب بذيله على قولتهم .. مادري ليش؟ الشكوى لله

    2 u all
    احم .. ليش العصبية أفا عليك .. قاعدين نتناقش طال عمرك :) وبعدين أنا ما فسرت الآية على مزاجي ولا حطيت لها أي تفسير أصلا :) و أنا كلامي مو نابع من تجربة شخصية والحمدلله ، بس والله من كثر اللي أشوفه ..

    عاد أكو ناس قالوا لي إنه أكو قصص حب ناجحة بس الظاهر أنا مقبسه على ربعي محد فيهم فالح :)

    ومشكور على المشاركة .. محد من الرجال شاف جدوى من التعليق الظاهر غيرك :)

    Drama Div@
    haha you even have a more pessimistic view of marriage than mine.

    Thanks for passing by :)

    ترى لاحظي الكل يقول جذي ، قصصهم ناجحة لأنهم ما نزوجوا .. لو متزوجين وعايشين سعداء للأبد جان صارت قصصهم نفس سندريلا ، مو صج :)

    مشكورة على المرور


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